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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tell her that she is stuck doing the work herself at this point, and when it is over she can reevaluate the friendship.

Group projects are always a minefield.  She is stuck right now.

Your statement about it being academically dishonest: kinda secondary.  She should just put her friend's name and handle this later with the friend. She should not shoot her own foot. And she should only go down the path of involving the teacher if she wants to own the resulting drama.

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yes to this.  Get through in the short term, take the learning lessons about group projects, who to partner with, how to withstand being badgered, how to deal with a freerider, who is a good friend and who is not---take those lessons and apply them for *next* time.   Because she'll need them for next time because she is a magnet for freeriders right now because she's conflict avoidant so acquiesces to badgering by so-called-"friends" who are using her.

There are a few battles within this situation and you must pick your battles, OP.  Agree with PP that academic dishonesty is secondary.  The whole situation set up by the school is set up for freeriding and then they set up a situation whereby she must vow that she must not allow freeriding or tell and create drama?  Not a fair situation given that 9th grade grades are important in the long term, and you are telling your hard-working DD to cut off her nose to spite her face.  Head down, get through the storm.  Learn from it.[/quote]

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