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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What would happen if you completely disengaged?

What would happen if you weren't between your dh and his parents. Remove you, and then it's just them. What will happen when it's just them? Here's my guess: watch him come running to you for support and an ally after getting sick of their shit.[/quote]

It’s already gotten to this point. It’s just upsetting when she calls or sends toys in the mail, suddenly my husband acts like she’s the greatest grandparent on earth. Meanwhile my parents always babysit, take my kids on long vacations,  show unconditional love etc and they get no credit or criticism for spoiling them too much. I guess I’d feel better if he’d acknowledge her faults and stop pushing our kids on her.[/quote]

This doesn't sound like a father who is going to tolerate your depriving his kids of access to mom, so I would proceed with that in mind.

I agree with the other poster who said you have a husband problem, not an in law problem.

You mentioned that you felt like he should speak up.  Have up you spoken up in the past?  Have you told your in laws why you find their comments so offensive, or do they have no idea that you feel this way?  Even if your husband doesn't feel comfortable confronting his mom, why can't you interject and speak up for your kids at the time these types of comments are made? Does she even know that you are upset?[/quote]

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