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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But bragging about sports achievements is completely fine.[/quote]

Both are annoying [/quote]

Do you ever wonder how we got to a point where we talk about our children's accomplishments more than our own? Is it because we feel it is more acceptable to do so? Is it that if we talk about doing well at work, then it is bragging, but if we talk about how DC got a "99 % score" on the CoGAT or is on an elite sports team, just won the chess tournament or placed first in the music competition, it is fine?

It makes me think about that episode of the Big Bang Theory where Leonard's mom is asked if she is proud of her children's accomplishments and she says something to the effect of, "why should I be, they are not mine."

I think (especially in this area), we are very, very invested in our children. Compared to 20-30 years ago, look at sports games and extra curricular activities. Parents sit through sports practices 2-3xs a week. Drive hours for weekend tournaments on games. Enroll children in multiple extra curricular activities (that cost lots of money). They want to see some pay off on that investment and then, well they want someone to validate that it is worth it and that they are good parents.

It is the same in almost all major areas of the country.......

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I think bragging is bragging, whether it's about you or your kid.  However, it's sometimes difficult for people to draw that line between sharing in the nature of conversation (or simply being excited about an accomplishment) and outright bragging.  It also depends on who is part of the conversation.  Telling my coworker who doesn't have kids that my child won a first place finish in a competition over the weekend is different than going on about it to the parents of a child who was in the same or a similar competition.  Of course the coworker gets annoyed constantly hearing about my kids because it gets boring after awhile, but it's not the same as going on about it to someone whose kid didn't fare as well.  And I think that's where people are in the case of AAP.  Obviously the people on these forums are trying to get their kids in.  When you believe your kid belongs in the program but doesn't get it, it's hard to have to listen to other parents "bragging" about their kids being found eligible.  And then even when you think that's over and the parents are past being oversensitive, the kids themselves brag about it when the separate classes really get going.  Annoying!

I will say, though, that the bragging about kids has been around for awhile now.  My mom was in various bridge groups (remember those?), and she would come home and tell me about all of the bragging these other moms did about their kids.  I wanted my mom to brag more about me, but that wasn't her style.  In retrospect, that wasn't such a bad call.[/quote]

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