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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My family lives out of state so I rarely see them. My in-laws live in a different state but within driving distance so they always come up and see us (and their other daughter who lives here). [b]Every time I mention seeing my family, [/b]my inlaws make a comment about seeing them or spending time with them, when we see them every other month! When we visit them and i want to leave the house to pick up some food, they make it a big deal. It's almost like they want me in front of them at all times. I don't understand. My parents don't mind if my husband leaves to visit friends, why is it such an issue with them? How do I get them to respect me and my family when we spend time together? [/quote]
Stop mentioning it.  Seriously, just don't tell them when you see your family.  It's none of their business.  [/quote]

if i don't mention my family, they act like they don't exist. it's ALWAYS about their family. When they see my kids, they never help out. ONce, they were visiting while my husband and i were at work and they wouldn't visit the kids at home. They waited until we got home. So strange. [/quote]

Your parents pretty much don’t exist in their world. What sort of acknowledgement are you expecting from your in laws toward your parents? I must be missing something. I speak with my MIL regularly and can’t even remember the last time I mentioned my family. They’re not friends, there’s no need to discuss them or my visits with them because they don’t affect my in laws. [/quote]
Exactly. It’s like you really caring about her friend Pearl, or her caring about your BFF. That’s a nice story, but not relatable. [/quote]

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