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I lived with him for 6 months each visit several times. I don't think you're being insensitive. WHen his family first told me, I was in disbelief. It just seemed impossible. I called the hospital and they confirmed it. I also was told there was a full autopsy on his body by the medical examiner's office. I had a really hard time with this information.. it's not easy to come to the realization that the man you loved had an autopsy performed on him. He just thought he was going to go for a drive and get a snack at the shop up the road (I assume this, knowing him so well) and instead he died and then they did an autopsy on him. It really haunts me. He was from South Africa. I was going to relocate there this year, marry him, and start a family.

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I'm the PP who asked the questions, and thank you for not taking offense. It sounded like Africa to me, but all the other details you give (living with him 18+ months and talking to the hospital) do sound legitimate.

I'm really sorry OP. And I do think you can find counseling sooner than waiting 90 days, even if it isn't specifically "grief counseling." It sounds like you would benefit from it. [/quote]
Why did you think it sounded like Africa? I don't really see why you reached that conclusion as this could have been several other countries...

I wasn't really comfortable stating this country and your reply wasn't all that helpful given the information I just revealed. I do take offense to the repeated suggestion of "get counseling" -- obviously I know this is something I need. But I'm in a state of shock right now and the events that have happened since his death and basically being shut out from the family have not helped me at all in the process of grief. [/quote]

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