Reply to Tell me about separating and divorcing with a young baby

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Tell me about separating and divorcing with a young baby"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is hard to know if he is abusive or if it is frustration and impatience and you two have a really unhealthy dynamic. [b]Withholding / refusing sex[/b] for a year in a marriage is a sign that you are just as frustrated but express it a little differently. Both of you are trying to get power and control where you can. Just a guess but he [b]might also feel you are never or rarely nice to him either[/b].

It will be hard but unless you are going to go to counseling and work through it and develop better communication and a healthier way of relating - divorce is really your only option as you can't both live like this in a resentful, sexless marriage.

[/quote]

OP here - I don't think of it as withholding, I just really don't want to do it. I'm afraid of him, always walking on eggshells. I think he does lately feel like I'm not nice to him either. I used to be sweet and make effort to be kind to him no matter what, but after a while his behavior wore me down and now I find I'm becoming more and more like him. [/quote]

Call it what you want but your husband didn't likely anticipate a sexless marriage / dead bedroom situation. That is a pretty big revelation for a man to find out about his marriage / wife and typically leads to resentment and frustration. Did you have sex just to get pregnant because you wanted a baby before you left him? Was he on board with having a child?

This sounds like a marriage of two bitter resentful people who don't really like each other anymore and don't treat each other well. Divorce sounds like a good option as the child isn't going to make things better.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics