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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not sure your DH ever stopped being immature. So he joked about this and dug himself a deep hole... It sounds like it then took on a life of its own within his friends and he just either passively or actively let it continue to roll and gather steam.

And not point in the last 4 years did he decide that this had gone too far and that he needed to stop it? He must have continued the act at these couples weekends to explain your absence. He accepted people thinking bad things about you and you being excluded to avoid coming clean.

You need couples counseling stat. Your husband not only doesn't have your back, he is actively working to put you down. You may both need to walk away from that whole group of friends and start with other friends or your friends. He needs to be willing to give up that group of friends Who cares what they think. You need to fix your marriage first.[/quote]

These were not couples weekends.  One of them was a big trip to Vegas and another to Austin.  It was coed -- so girls were invited and guys were invited and everyone brought their so.  He didn't have to continue an act -- he says his friends told them that I wasn't invited both times, so it wasn't his idea, and he just went along with it.[/quote]

OP back again.  Sorry, what???  He has to walk away from those friends?  No.  He won't do that.  He told me that he will blame me for the rest of my life and resent me if I do anything to hurt these friendships.  He or I need to somehow win back these friends years and years later.  He is willing to tell the truth and come clean, and write letters.[/quote]

If you watch an couple episodes of Teen Mom, you will catch some of the teen dads saying the exact same things.

He is picking his friends over his family bad he is far too old for that.

He should be willing to ditch friends like this who are so callous and rude to his wife.

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