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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We never ever intended to adopt but have discussed it, purely hypothetically/philosophically.

I think I'd be mostly ok with it. My DH, on the other hand, would be staunchly opposed. His thought is that if you had a child who was difficult or had persistent negative traits -- as realistically, all children do in one way or another as they're only human, right? -- it would be harder to like a child that is not biologically his own, because he would view those traits as more removed and less of his or my own making/origin. While I don't know that I am in the same camp with this, I get it, and I think it's something to consider. [/quote]

Interesting thought process. What if the child were wildly successful at something- would he also assign credit to the birth parents?[/quote]

There are things that are nature, nurture and unique to the child.  What's wrong with knowing it came from his birth family?  We credit things to our child's birth family and are grateful for those traits.  There are other thing that are clearly us.[/quote]

PP here.  Nothing is wrong with knowing something came from one’s birth family.  What I’m trying to get at is if PP’s husband thinks negative traits come from a birth family, would he also think positive traits come from the birth family too or would he credit his own parenting for those.  [/quote]

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