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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You may have to accept the fact that you dont know what strain this will put on your marriage and parenting relationships, and you may get divorced. If you are ok with that, consider it. Everyone I know who has been married and separated by continents for 6 months to a year+ is now divorced. [/quote]

Everyone I know who has been married and separated by continents for 6 months to a year+ is fine. Heck, people in long-distance relationships make it work all the time. Like all things in life, YMMV. Some people are fine with single parenting for a year and running everything by themselves, others just aren't cut out for it  - it's not easy! You just need to sit down and think seriously about whether you have the skills and fortitude to do it all on your own. Time differences are no joke. My husband travels constantly for work and we schedule Skype, but we are also kid-free and I like the space and time to myself. However, if we had a kid I'd want dates on the books for visits and a set schedule for the child to talk to dad daily. You can't expect much of your husband while he's abroad - you'll need to run *everything* related to home, school and social life/activities. Will you feel resentful when you husband takes a cool weekend trip to a nearby country while you're schlepping around the kid on errands?

Growing up my friend's father worked abroad in the Middle East. He visited once a year and they had weekend calls (age of no skype/facetime). They have a lovely relationship today and she is happy with her childhood. He worked abroad for years and years. 6 months to a year is kind of nothing. [/quote]

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