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[quote=Anonymous]Been there, done that.  My H also had a very low sex drive.  Married to him 25 years, the last ten very little sex, the last five, zero sex.  It never occurred to me to leave him most of that time, we got along fine, he was/is a great dad to our two kids, we did not fight and actually had good times together, especially family stuff, right up to the end.

I did not seek sex outside the marriage until the last year.  It did not seem like cheating because how do you cheat in a relationship with zero sex?  And by the way, when I stopped initiating the sex totally dried up.  I felt very undesirable but did not want to implode my kids' lives.  So anyway, when my youngest was almost 18 I dabbled in some other men, which was great.  One of them, ironically, convinced me that if I was going to do that I should leave him and get a divorce.  So I did.

That was twenty years ago.  He and I are friends to this day.  I had other relationships in that time although I am not in one now, but I have felt all along that I would choose to be alone rather than be in a sexless relationship like that.[/quote]

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