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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, man. He acknowledged the holiday.  But you wanted a traditionally romantic gift.  To preserve your sanity you must
 
a) train him -- i.e. "This year I'd really like flowers, candy, or jewelry on Feb 14."

b) select the kind of man who likes to do these things for his partner.

He doesn't care about the card, care box, etc.  He takes it for granted, assuming that you like to do those things.  Ask him what he wants for holidays.  If he is like my DH and many men, the thing he craves is a pass to do zilch.[/quote]

Thanks, this is a helpful way to frame it. It does bring me joy to create things for other people and I love giving thoughtful gifts - it’s my love language so it bums me out that he hasn’t picked up on this and tried a little bit to reciprocate. It probably made me happier to send the package than he will be to receive it.

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He did create something for you and give you a thoughtful gift, though.  He didn't link you to someone else's playlist.  He made something with you in mind, as instructed, and is now going to have to deal with you being pissy because ... why, exactly?  It didn't arrive in the mail?  It's not tangible?  It won't impress your coworkers?

Gifts are my love language, and my DH isn't great at them (and doesn't care much about my gifts to him, which can also sting).  But I am looking and looking here, and I can't find what this guy did wrong.  Were you expecting a proposal and anything less is a letdown?[/quote]

Oh calm down. I’m not pissy, I’m disappointed and venting on an anonymous message board. I work from home so no coworkers to impress. I don’t have Instagram or post on Facebook. However I am thinking about this in a different way now which is making me appreciate the playlist more.

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