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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're going to have to let go of the idea that people have to like you and have close relationships with you, just because they're relatives. She is who she is, and the best you can do is to facilitate a low-drama, harmonious relationship, as shallow as it needs to be. [/quote]

I was you OP at year 8, though I knew from the start that she didn’t want us to get married or like me. It’s 20 years later and I can honestly say I don’t give a fig. I don’t call her, don’t talk to her, but am pleasant at family functions. The irony is that I think she grew to like me over time, and certainly to respect me, but the reverse isn’t true. She could have had my undying loyalty, but I got older and more confident and went the total other direction to not caring about her at all. Not wishing her harm, just wanting distance. She is a diagnosed narcissist for what it’s worth. Also maybe borderline. She’s her own worst enemy, and I pity her now but she doesn’t cause me pain. I hope you get to that place someday. [/quote]

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