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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - SMCs do not have a co-parent and therefore have zero downtime, that is why I was addressing this to other SMCs. Several divorced/ single Moms I know have a 50/50 arrangement with the other parent, who helps out financially and they share the kid 50/50%  or the father has the kid every second weekend etc. Us, Single Moms by Choice do not have any financial help, or anyone else than ourselves to rely on. Therefore my post and question. 
SMC is not an odd classification. It is those Moms who have kids via a sperm donor and did it on their own, i.e. they are not divorced, separated etc. [/quote]

OP, while I understand the SMC acronym, I would encourage you to rethink your "anyone other than ourselves to rely on" self-description.  No parent can parent effectively without relying on other people.  The assumption is that married or divorced parents have a co-parent they can "rely" on.  This is often not the case, and many of us are trapped in situations with a spouse or co-parent who are actually unreliable and make co-parenting harder.  There are many days when I have thought that co-parenting would be easier if I were SMC, and I'm sure SMC sometimes think co-parenting would be easier with a partner.  Those of us with unreliable parenting partners have learned that all parents have to build their network of support if it is not found naturally in a supportive 2 parent structure.  Nannies, babysitters, neighborhood babysitting co-ops, friends, supportive co-workers who can cover for you and you them, supportive bosses, insurance plans for disability or unemployment, church, mentoring groups, tutors, sports or activities, etc.  Pay them, befriend them or trade them.   But, it can't be just you.  That's not healthy for you, and it's not healthy for the kids. [/quote]

I am a SMC and I could not agree with you more.  The unreliable co-parent situation is something that looks much harder to me.  [/quote]

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