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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think your daughter sounds normal and the decision to send her is easy in my mind--if she is admitted, send her.  What I see in your post is that your daughter has developed a "just enough" mindset.  I think this is completely normal and from what I see at our FCPS, it is kind of what the teachers ask for so of course that is what many kids do.  Without trying to sound like Crazy Tiger Mom, I think your job as a parent is to make clear to her that as she gets older you expect her to put her best effort into everything.  And I would suggest tying it to real life.  I feel like in our day, handwriting served that purpose.  If you spent time on handwriting, you got a good grade for it and it was an achievable goal.  So in my house growing up anything less than an A in handwriting was not acceptable.  It was low hanging fruit.  They took away grades and spelling and now kids just phone it in.  Explain that in your job and in most jobs, people are expected to do a solid reliable job and often to do there best.  A painter who paints one coat of paint has covered the wall but it isn't really what the customer wants. A lawyer who submits a filing on-time with some arguments isn't enough.  The client wants the best the lawyer can do.  This is what our world wants and it is something that kids need to learn.  So I think that you can use the AAP admission (if she gets in) as a tool to say "the school has concluded you are capable of more work, and I expect you to do the best you can."  In my house, we keep it simple.  I say I want their best effort and when they don't do it, we do it again.  She may never self-motivate to do the best she can but you can tell her that if she does her best as often as possible, it will help her get better grades, go to a better college, get and keep better jobs and in turn have a better income and really, I know it sounds bad, but that is what people need to get by in life.  Money.[/quote]

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