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[quote=Anonymous]I lost my mum just after I had my first baby and I felt like an orphan and like I didn't know how to mother. I was annoyed at how many @ssholes there were still walking the earth and she was gone. I felt like no one understood. I knew no one (close enough to talk to) who had lost their mother so I felt alone and weird.

I think for a while I pretended she was on vacation so we couldn't talk... once you get past the 'oh- I have to call m-' stage every time you think of something you need to tell her, and you remember she is gone, it gets easier. It's like you have to know it in your bones that that's how it is and there's no changing it.

I get through it daily by doing the things she did as a parent to replicate/honour her parenting and telling stories about her to my kids. I feel good living a life I know she'd be proud of. My coping has moved from an external 'I have to tell mum' to an internal 'I'm doing this so she already knows'.

Even suffering the still-living @ssholes of the world- I inwardly eyeroll like she's right here with me and feels a lot less lonely.[/quote]

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