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[quote=Anonymous]i lost a parent unexpectedly. I was basically the first in my peer group (and now that both of my parents are gone, definitely the first for that).
 a few months is still very early.  I'm so sorry pp. 
it took maybe a year before things started to feel 'normal' again (I lost an ill parent also, and it took a while--but no where near as long-- to feel 'normal).  obviously the 'new normal.'  things will eventually feel ok again, although it is very hard to believe. 
i think trying to find a therapist is, based on what you write, a good idea.  
I suggest trying super-hard not to project your feelings onto your kids. they are and will grieve and remember in their own ways. talk about your mom, bring her up in conversation etc.  Be sad around the, but try not to let it 'take over.'
I have seen a lot of people defined by the death of their parent(s).  I made a conscious choice that I didn't want that to be me.  We/I remember them, love them, etc., but I worked hard to not let it define me.  I hope that make sense.
Again, so sorry for your loss.[/quote]

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