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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is getting free childcare at the expense of your nanny.  You, as the nanny's employer, need to say something to the other mother.  [/quote]

We have had a similar situation where a SAHM who I don't know, whose kids don't happen to be friendly with my kids, has directly asked my nanny to help her by picking the kids up at the bus stop. My nanny shut it down herself and I was supportive. It is slightly different for you because the girls are friends, but the principle is the same: your nanny is paid to care for your daughter. If she's caring for another child on more than a one-off basis, she needs to be compensated for that too.

The nanny/family relationship is a very personal employment relationship. I am very careful not to take advantage of our nanny, who is also very nice, accommodating, and helpful. We don't even ask her to babysit on weekends, because we don't want her to feel like she has to say yes to keep us happy. That may be overly cautious, but I think you're well over the line here. Larla's mom is out of line too. The nanny is not her equal and they're not trading favors. She's asking your nanny to do something and there's no avenue for her to return the favor or pay your nanny back (without actually paying her). And, she's doing it with your tacit approval, meaning your nanny likely feels like she can't say no even if she wants to. [/quote]

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