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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So many parents here are over the top controlling. (Not just OP.) Of course he’s hiding the junk food. When you found out he had junk food, per your OP, what happened? He got in trouble. You just reinforced the reason he feels he has to his the junk food from you.

Now consider this. He feels he has to hide junk food from you because you’re going to overreact to his openness and honesty, or be dismissive of his feelings and desires. Imagine what’s going to happen when he is faced with a bigger decision than junk food. Who’s he going to turn to? Mom who loses her shit and punishes him over some chips, Dad who sits back and lets mom go bananas over food, or his friends who know no more than he does and have questionable judgment skills because they’re also in middle school but don’t freak out on him over every little thing?  [/quote]

We actually have a really good relationship other than the food hiding. He’s very communicative about what’s happening in his life. I make an effort not to overreact when he shares information, even if I’m not wild about it, and I think that has paid off. When he receives food (like chocolate bars at the holidays) and he’s up front about it, they go in the pantry and he eats them over time. No one seizes them, and I don’t make a big deal about it unless he’s using them as a meal substitute. I think the issue comes when those things run out. I wouldn’t be ok with him buying his own junk food to keep in the house because then it isn’t the exception anymore, it becomes the rule. [/quote]

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