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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Isn't it possible that after a generation or two of two-income households, people are placing more importance on having a parent stay home with their kids?  And yes, there is a natural and biological proclivity for that stay at home parent to be the woman.  You can argue whether that is right or wrong, but the data support that conclusion.

Why is it considered "equality in retreat" if a woman wants to stay home with her kids?  My wife was raised by a single professional woman and had a successful professional career herself.  And now she is out of the workforce, as a stay at home parent.  That hardly puts her in retreat or gender inequality.[/quote]

The issue with that is that most men don't make enough to support a SAHM.

I also have yet to see a SAHM/ working man relationship that was equal. The SAHM's DH is let off from doing anything. DH and I both work and my DH does 10x more than the husbands of the SAHMs I know and they're bitter about it. The men think that just because they work, they shouldn't do anything at home, which I think gives children the wrong message. [/quote]

Aw that's sad. I know plenty of one working parent / one parent home with the kids relationship ships that are very equal. Not as in each does exactly 50% of the dishes, 50% of the law care, 50% of the childcare...but as in they're a complete team and each vales the orher's contributions as equally
Important and nexessary. A tit for that relationship isn't healthy.

I do agree with pp's point that we're moderately swinging back towards a place where after several generations of pushing for exact equality!, a lot of families DO want either a stay at home parent or a parent who is able to cut back and be home a lot when the children are young. My husband and I, who both had working mothers, are one of them - we are saving now and waiting until we can afford for me to stay home to have kids, because it's important to us.

All that said, I think a huge issue is the one of (paid, sufficient) maternity leave. The US is SEVERELY lacking in that deparment, no other way to put it. But that has less to do with husband's and sons, I'd say
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