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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. Just felt the need to post a quick point of clarification- I recognize how completely unfair it is for me to resent my friend, as none of the factors of my own situation are in any way her fault. She deserves to be happy and glowing in her pregnancy. It's just painful as hell for me to watch, and then I'm disgusted with myself for not being able to feel happy for her like a normal person would. [/quote]

PP here. You do not have to explain yourself, especially on this board. I was downright bitter at many of the women who fell pregnant during the time my DW was going through countless IVF cycles and subsequent miscarriages. I wrote a very raw email to the friend who sent me an ultrasound picture just two days after my wife's D&C explaining why I wasn't enthusiastic in my response to her news and only offered a brief "congrats." Nearly a year later I reached out to her and acknowledged that while my email probably made her really uncomfortable, I was only speaking my truth. She then acknowledged that there are times in our lives where it is just not possible to be there for someone, and that time for us was then.

I unfriended folks who got pregnant easily with second, third, or fourth children. I stayed away from co-workers who were pregnant. I didn't attend baby showers. I allowed myself to feel those feelings. Do not feel disgusted that you can't feel happy for her - you are entitled to your grief. [/quote]

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