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[quote=Anonymous]My parents never asked about grades.  What they always told us was that our level of effort would be our result.  In fact I don't think they ever looked at report cards unless we asked them to.  My mom recently gave me a bunch of stuff from college.  In the box was a stack of mail from my two universities and many of the envelopes were addressed to me and contained report cards.  They were unopened.  Given that I was on the DAD&MOM scholarship plan, a full ride, I think most parents would have opened the envelopes...

They did, however, lead a lot by example.  They talked about my dad's struggle out of family poverty and how hard it was to pay for college by himself.  They talked about the big differences in our family versus his siblings' families, especially as it related to financial comfort and how much easier our lives were because of my dad's stable job and the higher income he earned because of his college degree.  They talked about my mom's family and how every child,[i] even the girls[/i], went to college during the '50's and '60's, and the difference it made in their lives because they could be self-sufficient.  [i]I would say that this one theme of leading by example came up every night at dinner and every family meeting[/i].

When my dad went back to school at night to get a graduate degree they talked about why and the outcome he expected professionally.  When my SAHM went back to school part-time to get a graduate degree they did the same thing and talked about how she wanted to use the degree when she entered the workforce.

They also talked about when they failed.  And usually they attributed the failure to not doing the best they could or a mistake they made.  I cannot recall them ever attributing a failure to someone else or the fault of the "system".  So they taught us about owning our results.  But they never ever asked about grades.[/quote]

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