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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a brother with serious addiction issues and I have kids. My feeling is this. I loved my brother even though I hated that he was an addict. But I didnt abandon or avoid him because of it. And I never want my children to believe my love and support are conditional. So my kids knew their uncle. They knew that we all loved him. They also understand that it isn’t a life we wanted for him. So, given that your brother poses no safety risk to your kids, no I don’t think it is the right thing to send the message that you will only support those whose lifestyles you agree with. 
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To be clear, when my kids are old enough to be on social media, he will connect with them and offer them drugs or ask for money.  There is zero doubt in my mind about this.  We may have 5 years before this is a real concern, but it is one reason I don’t want them to have a relationship.  I don’t think my kids will be able to say no if he asks for money to buy his own kids a present.

So while I have resentment and anger towards him, this is not pure vindictiveness[/quote]

Other people will be offering them drugs and money too, do you think you'll be able to avoid them?
I understand your fears, but I do not think you are doing the right thing.
I knew froma young age that my uncle the fun one had a problem with drugs and alcohol. My parents didn't shun my uncle and hide him from me. As A result I knew that  addiction could be a problem for anyone regardless of their personality  or family background. I was a lot more aware of things than my friends who were just told to ay no an drug users are bad scary people anf because of that I think I was a lot less succeptible than some teenagers to the drug use and being taken in by all that.[/quote]

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