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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your child have an IEP yet?  Sounds like he does not.

Your child was behaving insanely, doing something that every 2nd grader knows is not allowed.  "I wasn't doing anything wrong" in his opinion is not a defense.  You can't seriously think he thinks what he was doing is okay.

Then he openly defied an adult's instructions rather than going to the office.  I doubt he stopped throwing things immediately, either.  Teachers don't send kids to the office if they stop doing what they are doing when told.

When he was told by that adult again to go to the office, he backtalked her.  Offense 3 or 4 at this point.

Then he defied her again and ran away.  Do you know how many adults probably had to be alerted about an absconding child at that point?  Probabaly a lot, because a kid as defiant as yours could be a runner and run out of the building.  It's a big deal.  Offense 4 or 5, a major one.

And THEN he purposefully assaults the adult in front of another adult?

Suspension is warranted.  Multi-day.  You could quibble about whether it is 3 or 4 days but to what end?  Do you think what your child did is in any way acceptable?  (Even if it were true that the adult mimicked his backtalking, which seems beyond unlikely, that doesn't make his behavior in any way acceptable.)

Even if he gets an ADHD diagnosis, you can't let him think that a series of unsafe behaviors, backtalk, defiance,  absconding, and assaulting an adult is okay or defensible.  Stay home with him those 4 days, no screens, and work with him.  Do educational things, puzzles, read aloud a, schoolwork, and apology letters.  And realize that how you react now may determine whether this happens again.  This is not the time to turn on the school.  This is the time to hold your child close and arrest some very bad behavior.
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:roll: OP knows the behavior is out of hand.  If it was as simple as telling OP she needs to 'arrest bad behavior," she wouldn't be here.  She knows this is serious.  Do you have anything helpful to say, beyond your lectures? [/quote]

Her post implies that 4 days is too long a suspension because her child is being evaluated and her kid claims the para is mean.  I believe a 4 day suspension is warranted, period, and that she needs to stop excuse-making.  [/quote]

Well, you'd be wrong about that on many levels.  It sounds like this child is pretty certain to qualify for an IEP, so the school ought to have taken that into consideration before the suspension. And even for an NT 7 year old, 4 days would be too long.  You're looking at this from a punitive perspective, not from a perspective of what's actually going to HELP the child.  It's ok, it's very common for people to just want to punish. Parents facing behavioral issues like OP (and me, in the past) quickly learn how to weed out you Masked Avenger types.

If you'd actually like to learn and engage instead of being punitive, here's some information for you:

https://www.pbis.org/evaluation/evaluation-briefs/suspensions-and-future

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