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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are married to a man and a mother. Why would your friends need to know you’re bi? That implies you intend to cheat and play around.

Whatever it is, your sex life is your private business. Not your friends’ business. If you were single it’s one thing to say you’re bisexual, but you’re married and society expects people who are married to be committed and it’s never comfortable or pleasant to openly imply you’re not faithful or sleeping around and that’s what you’re doing when you tell people you’re bisexual while in a marriage.

Really, what exactly are you hoping to gain by telling people you’re bisexual while presumably happily married and with a child? [/quote]

I'm not the OP, but another bi woman married to a man, and this is a terrible reply.  Am I suddenly supposed to never mention my female exs? Or attend pride? Or talk about how queer representation is important to me?  I hate this idea that bi women who are married to men should just disappear and "play straight".  Can I no longer talk about how I was excited the Rosa on brooklyn 99 used the word bisexual to describe herself?

Bisexual does not mean nonmonogamous.  [/quote]

The OP is talking about "coming out" as bisexual to her friends despite being married and a mother. Not an openly bisexual person who later married a man. I don't see why she needs to make a fuss or a big deal about it. The way she described it in her OP wasn't wanting to be able to tell her friends in casual passing about previous girlfriends, but just wanted to declare to all and sundry that bisexuality is her identity despite making a pretty clear choice in marrying a man.

Her sexuality is really not my business and she seems self-centered. If I came across a similar situation I'd automatically think she's looking to cheat or play around or have an open marriage, and all three would make me less inclined to keep a friendship with her. I'd feel sorry for her family. [/quote]

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