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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you be insulted if they worried this much about their daughter coming over to your house?[/quote]

I don't know, PP - it is just my daughter and me at our house.  There is no husband or boyfriend EVER in my home.  And I would be in our small house during the entire sleepover.  This friend has slept over here.

OP here and what should I do?  Invite the parents over for dinner?  What about the high school age brother?  [/quote]

Why do you need to do ANYTHING other than teach your own daughter to defend herself, and speak up and get help when there's a problem?  You can't shield your child from everyone for her whole life. so the best thing you can do is teach her to protect herself and how to ask for help from a grownup when she needs it.

Have you ever studied the psychology of criminals? Of pedophiles? Because I have. And you know what is the best thing we can do to reduce recidivism? Enmesh people in their communities. If this high school brother is treated like a molester by too many people in his community he will either leave the community (if he's 100% healthy) or will think "Might as well since everyone already thinks I'm doing it."  There is no reason to assume that just because someone is born with a penis they will use it as a weapon. Unless this high school brother has actually given you any reason to distrust him, then trust him, and trust the parents in charge of him. [/quote]

Would you be comfortable taking that risk with your own 12 year old?

Op, hold off on sleepovers at their house until you know the whole family better.[/quote]

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