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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an older sister and sometimes I feel bad for my younger sister. Our parents had her do what I did for the sake of simplicity. If I took piano lessons, then she took piano lessons. If I took ballet, she took ballet. She had a lot of my hand-me-downs. I got to decide things and she just accepted what was given to her.
Maybe the difference is that my younger sister is not at all competitive. She an average, but so am I. We get along pretty well.[/quote]

OP here. I wouldn’t feel so threatened by her if she was average. She’s always on the loosest to be the best, brightest and prettiest. She has this perfect mask that never falters. I never see her sweat. No one does except maybe her boyfriend. [/quote]

No one is perfect.  You need to work on being happy with yourself, regardless of whatever she has going on.  When I was younger I was jealous of my friends who had what I wanted.  Now I have what I want and I'm not remotely jealous of them when they get great things.  Being able to be truly happy for someone else's success is fun, so make your own life happen and your jealous will go away.[/quote]

The thing is one can feel perfectly fine about themselves and still find themselves out of step with seemingly more successful people. It's one thing if the more successful person is a casual acquaintance. It's different when it's an immediate family member. They're sisters and are expected to feel a certain way about each other, yet they live in different worlds that only collide during family gatherings. [/quote]

I'm the PP.  I guess my feeling is, no one is more successful than me because I love my life.  Sure, I have friends who make more money or have a bigger house or nicer cars or whatever.  But I love MY job, house, car, etc, so I'm not jealous that theirs are "better."  I guess what I'm saying is, if you're happy with your own life, then no one else is more successful in your eyes, even if they are by general standards.  Maybe it's just my friends, but the ones who are truly happy are the ones who think they're the most successful, even if they're not.  The ones who worry about what other people have are not happy.[/quote]
PP, you can be happy with your life and still acknowledge that other people enjoy more money, happier love life, or better metabolism :lol: When it's someone this close, it's virtually impossible to pretend you live in a vacuum and avoid all comparison. They're sisters. Obviously, everyone who knows them will compare them.

As far as friends who have more money, you either speak about acquaintances, or your situations are at least comparable. It is difficult to invest in a close relationship with someone who  can afford to live in another world. It's not all about envy. It's also about logistics. If your friends can't afford the events and venues you frequent, how much time do you think you will be spending together? And vice versa, there may be people who'd be willing to pay to invite you into their world, but how long will you accept charity before it gets uncomfortable?[/quote]

PP here.  Of course I acknowledge that other people have more money, better metabolism, whatever.  But I don't CARE.  OP said she was jealous.  I'm not jealous of those people because I'm happy with what I have.  I can compare myself to all of my friends, and some of them are skinnier than me, or richer than me, or have a bigger house than me, etc.  But I'm not jealous of what they have.

And I don't understand the world in which you live, because I make four times what my best friend and her husband make combined  (I'm ignoring my husband's income, which is higher than mine), so we do live in different worlds (i.e. I have a maid, she cleans her own house, we go on nice vacations, she goes to a relative's house, etc.) but it has not affected our friendship.  We've been best friends for over 20 years and spend a ton of time together.  I feel sorry for people like you who let money get in the way of friendships.[/quote]

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