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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recently found my half-sister through Ancestry DNA.  My mom had signed papers to surrender her for adoption but was told by the (evil) nuns in the home for unwed mothers where she was sent in secret that the baby had been born deformed and later died.  (They were apparently looking to extract maximum guilt/penance from her.)

My mom is dead now and it breaks my heart that she never knew her daughter was healthy and fine.  It's been really lovely to know her and get to know her kids and husband.  We are still a bit tentative with each other but like each other a lot and text a few times a week.

When I did Ancestry DNA, it definitely occurred to me that I might find a sibling that my dad had fathered at some point.  And while that would be disturbing, I would certainly want to know that a sibling existed and would be happy to share our family history with him/her.  And who knows...it could be a meaningful relationship.  It's good that you have low expectations and don't assume a storybook ending, but I think maybe you assume it would only be bad, and I don't think that's true.

My sister's daughter looks just like my mom.  It is eerie because neither of us look like her.  But there is something primal and kind of wonderfully satisfying in seeing my mother in her, and she loves seeing photos of my mom as a younger woman.  They are all interested in the family history.  I'm so glad to have this family mystery resolved, or, at least, illuminated.  Maybe your half siblings would be, too.  They're adults.  Give them some credit for being able to know their family's truth?[/quote]

Nice perspective. [/quote]

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