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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 7th grade son has issues with HW. He also has ADHD and takes Vyvanse. It has worn off by 5pm so he just had his dose increased. It has been a bit better but now he has to do all HW in front of me (if it is online HW). I know he was wasting time before online and then would end up having to stay up late. He knows if he wants a phone and XBox, he needs all As and Bs. He used to go to public school and he got straight As even though he did next to no work. Now that he is in private school, he actually has to work hard and he isn't used to it at all. I wish I didn't have to micromanage him at this point but he obviously needs it. He also knows that he can't use any electronics on the weekend unless he has all As and Bs. He is hard headed and stubborn but a weekend w/o any electronics helps remind him that I am not kidding.[/quote]

I can assure you of this. If you continue to micromanage your son this way he will utterly fail when he leaves for college. it would be far better to insist on seeing the finished product but not make him sit with you. Stop insisting on As and Bs, stop hovering over him.

Or don't. But you will see what you get when he leaves, he will be incapable of self discipline.

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This was my DS I posted about. I've tried it that way and that's how he ended up in this situation. If I tell him he needs to do the work and just let me look at the finished product, he will be up all night. Part of the problem is that a lot of the HW needs to be done online and the internet is full of distractions. He has ADHD and he is the definition of distracted. This is why he is now sitting with me so I can make sure he isn't going off onto other websites. I've tried to block things but he knows his way around it. He is 12, not 17 so right now, he needs more supervision, not less. [b]I don't have the money for him to live at college anyway so I'm not worried about sending him off anywhere.[/b] If he gave good effort and got a C, I would be fine with that. But he doesn't give good effort and his teachers have all told me he is capable of more. My older DD does not have ADHD and did all of her HW all by herself all of the time. But this is a different child and right now, this is how it's going to be.[/quote]

So you're planning to micromanage him all through college?  Sit with him while he does his homework? [/quote]

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