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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you're trying to be a good friend and be there for your friend who is likely feeling insanely confused, upset, lost and ashmed right now, and who specifically confided in you because she very clearly needed someone trusted to talk to. I don't know why everyone here is being so obtuse.

You can support her by being there for her to talk to when she needs to voice her feelings, and by being a non-judgmental ear. I would be very careful with giving any sort of advice (or saying anything negative about her husband) - the key word is listen. I would also encourage her to try talking to a therapist.

This was many years ago, and I did not fall in love with him or anything, but several years into my young marriage and for a variety of reasons I was having doubts...and they were exacerbated by an ex looking me up out of the blue and pursuing me pretty hard. While I never cheated (and eventually told my husband about everything and we worked on our marriage), it was an EXTREMELY lonely and difficult time. I was SO confused, and I was having all kinds of conflicting thoughts and feeling extremely guilty about all of them. I didn't feel like I could talk to anyone about it. I was in a seriously bad place mentally when I finally broke down and confided in one of my friends. I will FOREVER be grateful to her. She listened, she didn't judge, and she checked in to see how I was doing regularly. She didn't give her opinion or offer advice, she just let me vent and get it all out - she gave me an outlet for all the horrible self-torturing I'd been doing. She told me she knows life is complicated, that she didn't think I was a horrible person for having these feelings, and that no matter what happened she would support me. I have never forgotten how she was there for me during one of the hardest points of my life, and we are SO close to this day.

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