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[quote=Anonymous]There are degrees of "work it out". I take that approach, but that doesn't mean I don't monitor or intervene. It's a strategy that works with my kids b/c there's not a clear winner between my two kids. The flip side of this is my parents always intervened when my brother and I fought growing up. They only saw my reaction, not all the mean, cruel things my brother did to me. So I got into trouble. Now looking back on how much my parents protected their darling baby boy, they feel bad for how he treated me. As a parent, it's hard to tell who really "started it" and who should be punished. So in addition to teaching my kids how to work it out and do problem solving with them, I also punish both of them for fighting. I avoid taking sides (but will if it's clear what happened).

Like everything with parenting, one approach all the time is not the best way to do things. You need a number of tools in your arsenal and use what approach is appropriate at the time. I bet you will see that the parents who encourage the work it out strategy don't use it exclusively. [/quote]

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