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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happens to me a lot but I am a DW and I side with your DH.  Just because you say that's the list for sunday doesn't mean it's the law.  And if he wanted to clean the litterbox at 11pm that's his choice.  Your priorities and preferences aren't gospel.[/quote]

Implicit in your comment about cleaning the litterbox at 11 pm is being able to trust that your partner will do the things they say they will, even if on a different timeline. If my DH says at 2 pm that he'll do X chore that needs to get done that day (e.g., the litterbox is starting to smell or the cat won't use it if it gets too befouled) and I know that he's reliable about doing the things he says he will, then when it's 8 pm and everything but that chore is done, I could be done for the day knowing that the chore will get done at some point that night even if I don't think about it again. But if my DH is not reliable in that regard, then at 8 pm when only that chore is left, I have to decide whether I want to 1) keep nagging at him all night to do it, 2) accept that it may not get done and I'll have to deal with it in the morning, or 3) just do it myself now. None of those are appealing options, but if that's what I have to choose from, I'm probably going to pick #3 because that minimizes the negative impact on my of his laziness and lack of responsibility.[/quote]

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