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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have kids, OP?  Tweens are a trying age, so if you haven’t parented through it, you might just not have realistic expectations.

Also, ask yourself how important it is to have a relationship with your nieces and nephews as they get older. You can be the fun Aunt they love to spend time with, or the annoying Aunt who disapproves of them.  My kids have one of each.  One aunt who is their favorite person in the world.  And one whom has never made an effort to get to know them.  If you really don’t care about maintaining the relationship, with the kids or your siblings, sure prove a point. [/quote]

Agreed.

But OP - you're not "wrong" for feeling this way.  I get it - been there before and suspect I will again.  But I agree with this poster and others - look at the big picture.  Think about future relationships as they age.  I'd rather be the beloved or at the very least the "neutral" aunt than one who is viewed as angry or embittered.  Even though your feelings of dislike are likely valid, you may only leave yourself more frustrated when you find they learn nothing at all other than their aunt doesn't like them.  And again, not knocking you for not liking anyone of any age - it can be really hard to genuinely like people.

I like the gift card suggestion - many kids actually prefer them to well-intentioned gifts that miss the mark.  In fact, you may unintentionally give them their favorite gift! ;)

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