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[quote=Anonymous]My DH  has mentioned it but we make almost the same and it doesn’t have any reflection on how the household labor is divided (he is very hands-on and involved with the kids)  or how we spend money (joint accounts).  When we met in our 20’s I think I was making maybe 25K more which was a big difference (not quite double).  I play along and say who knew ..and that it’s like the Jeffersons moving on up song.

If you, OP, don’t find it funny, be honest and straightforward with him that it’s too soon to joke about this.  You are still trying to get to where your career should be and it makes you feel like the sacrifices you made for his career aren’t appreciated . If him making more is being used to control budget/spending decisions or get out of helping around the house that’s a different conversation.  I don’t think it’s the beginning of the end unless he continues joking after you’ve explained why you don’t find it funny - I mean what’s the point of a joke between two people if it’s at the expense of the other person and they have said they don’t find it funny - at that point your being an a-hole.  Or if he is using making more money to control the budget or how the household is run and you have discussed this issue , how you feel, being open to negotiation and compromise on how to go forward, and he isn’t hearing it.[/quote]

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