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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Why did you choose him? You do realize he didn't become this way overnight. [/quote]

this is kind of a spin off, but this is a really tiresome answer. There are a million reasons why people choose their imperfect spouses from

1) didn't have a lot of experience with relationships and knowledge of what to expect
2) had poor family role models (see above)
3) chose someone who was a great boyfriend/girlfriend but not capable of long term commitment
4) chose someone who couldn't handle well the stresses of being a grown up (children, job etc)
5) chose someone who has a very different, and unworkable with you, way of resolving the kinds of conflicts that arise with marriage and family
6) chose someone who developed depression, drug addiction or other illness/problem
7) chose someone quickly, or not, without seeing them in all situations 
8) enter situations of stress in which people are not their best
9) chose someone who just decides they do not really want the life they have (this happens ALL the time).

a lot of shit happens in life: illnesses, disease, family, financial issues, etc. Sometimes a couple grows together through these bumps, but sometimes those bumps are the test of compatibility and how a couple works through issues. Sometimes  a bad year or two, due to outside circumstances, can create such a negative series of interactions that returning from that place seems impossible. Other times people are nuts. My friend is divorcing a guy she knew for 20 years, dated for 10. within the first year of marriage, he cheated, quit his job and basically went nuts. No one saw it coming, but it came. [/quote]

can we just pin this at the top of the forum please? this is the best answer to that tired question of "why did you pick them"[/quote]

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