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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your family has some chronic health issues to deal with, that the il's are in the dark about?  I get your frustration, but it's hard to blame them when they don't know what's going on with you guys.

I assume there's some particular reason you don't tell them things like being in the ER?[/quote]

This.  It sounds like you're mad at them because they're in the dark but you can't put all of that on your husband.  If he is out of the country a lot and you want them looped in then it DOES fall on you to loop them in.

My mom was a military wife and my dad was gone for months/years at a time.  She made sure to call his mother at least once a week to keep her up-to-date, even if mom had no news from dad.  This was in the 60's and 70's so writing letters or calling was it.  She also had us writing letters to them.  My dad's mom wasn't much on reciprocating (no letters back) but she knew what was going on and she became part of my mom's support system when she broke an arm and leg, and needed help.  Both of our grandmas were with us in a jiffy and they helped out until dad got back.

So I say that you need to step up.  If you want them to know what is going on (so that you can call on them for help b/c that's what it sounds like you want) then you be responsible tell them.  This Thanksgiving is a perfect time to come clean and set it up "You know, I've been a little resentful because we've had some challenges this year and ... but I think the way to handle it is ... so I will be reaching out to you (email, texts, calls) more frequently to keep you in the loop ...".

I know this isn't the answer you [i]want[/i] to hear but from my experience it is the answer you [i]need[/i] to hear.  Do with it what you will and best wishes for a more healthy and happy upcoming year.[/quote]

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