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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll definitely meet up with you at the playground, and if my house is clean enough then maybe I'll set up a play date as well. But not everyone is inclined to host big events...surely you recognize that?[/quote]

OP here.  Well the issue is that if I invite you for Friendsgiving and a New Year's Eve Party, and you don't even invite me over for a single playdate over the course of the year, well I feel slighted.  At least you could invite me to meet up with you at a playground sometime, but you don't even do that.  So I feel that I put in all this effort and you put in none, so I conclude that you do not value our friendship.[/quote]

NP. OP, I am introverted and while I would accept an invitation to a party if I could, I would never reciprocate with my own party. And, this might seem odd to you, but if you were only initiating "party" invitations to me I might not think of you right off the bat for a simple playground meet up. I would probably assume that we were good enough friends to be invited to your big event but not in your smaller circle of casual meet ups (as an introvert I have a lot of fantasies about the very full and exciting social lives you extroverts lead). If you invited us to a couple playground meet ups, though, then I would definitely think of you for that.

Also, RE the parties, what if you did some more casual events, like pot lucks or restaurant meet ups? You would still have the burden of initiating but overall it would be less work for you overall.

And family friendly is great but if you are looking for friendships sometimes "just moms" works better. I did host a book club for a while and other moms were receptive to that. Eventually hosting/attending became to difficult for me because one of my kids has special needs and DH often works late but I think the club continued at another friend's house. Even though we mostly just drank and ate the "book club" worked better than an outside happy hour because no one felt pressure to get dressed up or anything. [/quote]

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