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[quote=Anonymous]I’m the spouse. I have PTSD and anxiety. I also have some major health issues. So good days and bad days. I “own” my issues and praise my DH to high heaven for his patience, help, good humor, and devotion. A good sex life really helps and we prioritize that. Our marriage isn’t heaven, but it’s happy and healthy. That said, my ex had undertreated ADHD and (at that time) multiple undiagnosed mental illnesses. All I knew was that I was doing all the heavy lifting and then being abused verbally, emotionally, and eventually physically. It was hell. He then repeated this pattern with another wife. She got out faster than I did (no kids). My takeaway is that treatment is key. Without proper treatment, the ill spouse cannot be a full participant in any attempt to grow a marriage. Without treatment, the non-ill spouse lacks a baseline to see if this really is who they want to be married to.[/quote]
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