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[quote=Anonymous]My parents were good parents who tried their best (IMO) but they are fundamentally incompatible with each other. They had a semi-arranged marriage- introduced by their parents and pressured to marry quickly. I remember alot of arguing followed by compromises (that didn't really work for anyone) and passive-aggressiveness. Growing up, I wished they had gotten divorced but unfortunately, they came from a generation and culture where divorce was unacceptable.

I learned from watching my parents what I didn't want in a relationship. I also had commitment issues for a long time because I was terrified of ending up like my parents. My parents are now in their 70s and retired. They no longer have childcare, eldercare, or work to provide distractions from their relationship. Both are unhappy and resentful. Since they don't like each other, they can't/won't be each other's primary companion in their old age. Instead, they rely on me and my brother for that. If we say that we are busy with our own lives, they will guilt trip us. They routinely remind us of the sacrifices they made for us and in particular, how they stayed married for us.

This is a sacrifice I could've done without.[/quote]

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