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[quote=Anonymous]My parents "stayed together for my sake" until I was 13. Then someone from my mom's past turned up, and she jumped ship from my dad to my now step-dad.

My step-dad is a GREAT guy. Love him. And it seriously, seriously tarnished my view of my mom that she couldn't be independent and leave my dad, she had to wait for another man to come along.

Their divorce has caused me a lot of heartache and relationship damage with my parents, even though my dad was kind of a jerk and they probably should have divorced earlier. I'm mid-30s and it's finally getting easier where I have my boundaries and family routines (holidays, etc) down, but divorce actually gets harder in the first decade of being an adult child and now responsible for being the one to work out when you see each of them, money, expectations, navigating inlaws, etc.

My personal opinion - if you want out, get out on as good of terms as possible so you put as little of it as possible on your kids to deal with. But if you're going to stay together - stay together. Don't jump ship once something better comes along, it's just a really weak move and your kids see it. Get out and be independent, or be committed. But don't wait around for a better option. [/quote]

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