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[quote=Anonymous]My lifelong best friend grew up in this scenario. Her parents had a sort of partially arranged marriage. They were set up, liked each other enough, and were pressured into marrying quickly by their families. She was an only child and literally never experienced a happy nuclear household where the parents love each other. They established when she was fairly young that they didn't love each other and didn't want to be together, but they stayed together in the same house until she left for college. Especially for her younger self, it was a confusing situation. They would go out to dinner as a platonic family, go grocery shopping together, etc. but then at the same time sleep in separate rooms, date other people, work long hours to avoid each other, and fight terribly - the police came to her house often. She was forced to grow up quickly in ways that I never had to as a child with parents in a thankfully happy marriage. She was constantly made to mediate their fights as the only child and knew from a young age that they prioritized themselves and their issues over her.

She told me many times that she wished they would just divorce and live separately. She's not close with either of them because of what they put her through, and when she first entered the dating scene as an adult she needed a lot of help from her friends to truly understand and live out a healthy, thriving relationship.

This is an extreme scenario, of course, but your kids are affected by what you do, be in staying in a marriage OR divorcing. [/quote]

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