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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You email the parent to ask if you can bring something.

But no, I really don't want to turn a basement party with 6 girls into 5-6 helicopters coming in to talk and ruin my weekend night of Netflixing and wine with my husband [/quote]

Most parents what to know what is going on in a home and if their kids are safe.  No reason not to reach out before the party or at drop off.  Your netflix and getting drunk can wait till all the kids arrive.  If I knew you were too busy to check in on the kids every once in a while as getting drunk was your priority I would not want my kid over there.[/quote]

Exactly this.

Come on OP.  You know how to parent.  Which is why you were uncomfortable. And you can stand up to a 13 year old.  You look her in the eye.  You say “Hi!  I’m Larla’s mom. You must be Larla2. It’s nice to meet you. Can I talk to your mom for a minute?”  Then you take 2 minutes and repeat the whole spiel with Larla2’s Mom. Say you just wanted to put a name to a face. Tell her how nice it was of her her to host. Confirm pickup time. Gracefully depart.

Now, is Larla2’s mom is too drunk and checked out in the basement to be bothered to meet you, you take your 13 year old and leave.  Because who wants to leave their young teen in that type of situation? She may hate you. No one said parents are always popular with their kids.

Now pickup?  Sure, text from the driveway unless you get a sense there is a problem. Once you have met Larla’s mom and a party has gone well?  Sure, text or email and confirm the details with the mom and drop off. But new kid, new parents? Meet face to face and make sure there is a parent, and everything seems okay.   New invite?  Confirm the parents know. Anyone that you want supervising teenagers gets this and respects this. [/quote]

Yes this! You should want to know with whom your 13 year old is spending time. If your teen never hates you then you aren't doing your job. [/quote]

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