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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm terrible with names so I might not have held it against him if I liked him, but used it as a reason to move on if I didn't.  I also think that people who act shocked by 'ghosting' after one or two dates are a little theatrical and tiresome.  Disappearing on someone you've dated for six months is "ghosting," not returning a first date's call is the only answer that person needs.  You'd met this guy once, you didn't owe him a breakup scene.[/quote]

A no thanks. Not feeling the chemistry is hardly a break up scene.[/quote]

It certainly doesn't have to be, but I had guys try to argue/negotiate for another chance or get really hateful when they get the bland "thanks but I'm not sure we're a match" text.  Really funny how quickly they can swing from "I have tickets to X do you want to go" to "I was doing you a favor anyway you fat bitch" when you say no, and it's impossible to guess which guys are *that* guy on so little information.  I found that not responding to a text or email gave the same amount of information ("I am not interested") and usually actually ended the encounter.  Like I said, I'm talking about people you've met once or twice, not someone you were in a relationship with: it's not ghosting to stop talking to someone you were barely talking to in the first place.

And to forestall the ineveitable: yes I had guys not respond to my "that was fun do you want to set something up for Thursday" texts and it was fine.  Gave me the information I needed (no, he does not want to) and wasn't heartbreaking or anything because it was a first date!  No one should be that invested at that point.[/quote]

You think I haven't had guys turn stupid on me?  Potential bad behavior  of someone else doesn't absolve you from behaving like a decent human being in my opinion.  If after you  tell him no thanks no chemistry and he chooses to respond rudely you can feel free to ignore.  [/quote]

I have no idea who you are, but based on this post I do think you're theatrical and tiresome, as I said initially.[/quote]

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