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[quote=Anonymous]OP, one of the most useful things that I read about parenting teens suggested that it's their job to push boundaries... i.e. their job at that stage is to grow up and get ready for independence, and part of that is pushing boundaries, including trying to manipulate parents into arguments to deflect actual parenting.   That's OK and normal, so no need to be upset by it.

It's your job to be an adult (easier said that done, at least for me) and not let any of that nonsense work.  Kids will try very, very hard to turn any "misbehaving kid being disciplined by a calm adult" situation into an "angry people yelling at each other" situation because that is better for them.  Don't let them do it.  Impose reasonable consequences and move on.  Ignore  faces made behind your back.  Impose consequences for disrespectful behavior in your presence, but you also can't mock or be sarcastic.  Explain once ("flying the drone like that was dangerous") but don't dignify attempts to argue or request further explanation with a response.  You can just say "Asked and answered, move on."[/quote]

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