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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It felt stupid once I got divorced and realized I should’ve waited for a guy I was crazy about, rather than settling because it was “the right time” according to society. [/quote]

That's dumb...if you did that at 30 I think it's just as likely you'd have done it at 33 (etc)...maybe you'd have rushed into things even more, if that's what your attitude was like (meaning you would have felt even MORE "behind" and desperate). I do have one of those "weird" (to quote a PP...haha) large group of girlfriends, who are amazing btw. There are 10 of us, 8 who met in college. Anyways: just about half of us got married between 26 and 30. And we all experienced major support, because our friends love and are happy for us. I am one of the ones who got married in my late 20s, and I will tell you honestly I did not feel some big sudden magical divide between "the marrieds" and "the bits". Those differences felt more pronounced: in early-mid 20s, when suddenly more of us were in serious relationships than not, so we weren't a group of single friends going out / meeting guys together (some of these people ended up married, some not, but around then more of is started being on a series of long term relationships with one person at a time as opposed to casual dating), and then when some of us started having kids. Obvious lifestyle differences there. However, we all remain very close and anything I feel for/about my still-unmarried friends is certainly not pity or catty. There are a couple who really want kids, and for them I feel sad and I really hope they meet a wonderful guy - because they are wonderful and deserve to be happy. But I don't feel gloaty or anything like that. I certainly feel lucky that things have gone the way they have for me, partially because I really wanted children and ended up having some unexpected fertility issues...so I'm glad we were able to start early and figure it out. I love that I've had so much time to build a wonderful stable relationship with my husband and create our family, but I can see the fun in doing it the other way, and staying single and carefree for most of my 30s too. Pretty much I am happy for my friends as long as they are happy [/quote]

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