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[quote=Anonymous][quote]So how did you get husband / child on board with this? I feel like if I had the calendar only I would check it/keep up with it because DH would forget.[/quote]

20:22 here. It took years of work to get DH to consistently use lists/calendar (I do the same thing the PP does in linking calendars). I first bought him a Franklin Planner about 20 years ago for Xmas and the class on how to use it! I think for DH, I think he liked feeling he accomplished something and liked knowing he did the right thing first (not getting the right thing done or underestimating what it would take to do it had been problematic). It also saved him time. I can organize as easily as I can breathe. For DH, it's like slogging thru mud.

For the kids, I  'incentivized' them. Do everything on the list and you can then do/get X,Y,Z. It doesn't have to be anything big, just something they want. The older they get, the easier it is because they get it. Start small and work up to bigger things. And, yes, if the list isn't completed there can be consequences. Usually along the lines of 'you must stop whatever your doing and complete the things on the list. I will oversee your work and when you are done, you do NOT get to do X,Y,Z.' So, either way, the list gets done. But remember, just like with any kind of 'training', you have to invest time but the rewards are well worth it and not just for you. These are life skills. But, yeah, it can be frustrating and a PIA getting them trained.

How I make the list, depended upon the age of the kid and how much time I had. Since one of my kids has SN, we did a lot of visual lists at first. Now, sometimes I use a sticky note for each kid or will text the list. If it's a bigger project, I'll use the white board and break it down into sub-tasks. For example, in the beginning,  I just couldn't say 'clean the kitchen' but had to list each step and in the order it should be done - and not just for the kids but for DH.

The kids also use the white board to list things they need me or DH to do (fix bike, change lightbulb, etc.). We also have a running grocery list. Our white board is actually really big. We made it out of showerboard from Home Depot.  Everyone soon learned that if it wasn't on the whiteboard, it didn't get done or didn't get purchased. [/quote]

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