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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m with 20:22. Lists are your friend. It saves arguing and getting mad on all sides. Kid & DH don’t get upset at a list but do if it’s me ‘nagging’ or shouting, and I loathe being in the latter position as well.

For DS, there is no medication that doesn’t come with disastrous side effects; so he is unmedicated. During the week, his big task is to check in with teachers frequently for test dates/assignments. I make him turn in rough essays at least 2 days ahead of their due date for feedback. (He’s in an IB program where grading is harsh & many of his teachers refuse to use managebac). Fri PM, he must draft a weekend checklist, showing me exactly when/what he needs to do. No chores; school (incl community service) has my kid at the limit of his capacity right now.

DH keeps a checklist on his phone, incl household chores, and all three of our calendars are linked, so we have automatic visibility into what’s going on for each of us. I have visibility to DH’s checklist and can add to it or highlight items that need to be done sooner.

All of this means that I definitely do most of the organizational heavy lifting, which I don’t mind IF I get cooperation from DH & DS. [/quote]

So how did you get husband / child on board with this? I feel like if I had the calendar only I would check it/keep up with it because DH would forget.[/quote]

I think they really hate me nagging! Admittedly, I do most of DS’s calendar - it’s for stuff like after school activities, Dr appts, anything where someone need to drive him somewhere. DS only keeps his manual homework calendar up to date (see above). And I am the tech person, who sets each person’s device up, which ensures there are no complaints of ‘I didn’t know!’

DH keeps his own calendar. He’s so forgetful that he checks his calendar all day, tbh, as he KNOWS he won’t remember stuff and feels perpetually paranoid. If I think he’s going to forget something critical, I give it an alarm - so it flashes on his screen without me having to say anything. Also, if he doesn’t mark something down & it’s his turn to pick up DS, for example, he’s SOL and has to cancel the other thing. I don’t pick up the slack unless it’s something truly out of his control.[/quote]

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