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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Hollybear]It's pretty hard when you're in high school and you're bullied by boys and girls alike because you look "ugly". I have no confidence left, no matter how much you tell me that beauty is on the inside. It's not!! In reality, people will judge you for how you look, not for what you really are.

I don't blame other students for wanting to kill themselves. High school is full of mean people who think they're better than you.[/quote]

Look at this from a different angle.  Don't believe people who tell you that you are still beautiful just the way you are, etc.  No.  I don't know what you look like but surely we can all agree that beauty is a scale, and some people will be more beautiful than others and some will be less.  You won't be upset, for instance, to hear that some people have musical ears and some do not, and only very few are destined to become performing pianists. Think of beauty as a talent that you, at this point of your life, do not have.

But so what? Look at the Forbes 500 list.  Look at the media.  Look at bestselling authors.  Look at whatever people who are top achievers in whatever field you value. Look at the wives of powerful men if everything else fails. Go to the courthouse and stand by the window handing out marriage licenses for a day.  You'll see all kinds of people getting married, and you'll see all kinds of people achieving top scores in life - professionally, financially, fame wise, whatever.  Beauty helps in life, but homely looks do not prevent you from succeeding.  Not at all.  You can still become academically and professionally successful, rich, famous, whatever you value.  Beauty doesn't buy all that. If you think about it, beautiful girls WITHOUT everything else are so infinitely replaceable.  Success is not about beauty.

Incidentally, that's not an excuse to neglect your grooming and body.  [b]Great hair, teeth, skin and figure are very squarely under your control. [/b]Take care of this and you're halfway there. Add stylish clothes and you're way ahead of the game. [/quote]

Um, no. Good figure isn't "squarely under" anyone's control, this is something you need to born with (you can lose weight, somewhat, but the proportions of your body will remain the same throughout your entire life). Ditto for great hair, whatever you mean by it -- there are different textures and your hair texture remains consistent, except for rare cases of chemotherapy patients, but we don't wish it on anybody. Teeth and skin - I'll give you that, problem teeth and skin can be fixed, to a certain degree.

But you're right, PP, that looks don't matter as much as high school kids ten to think. Thirty years down the road, the former high school beauty queens aren't nearly the most successful, fulfilled and happiest of the bunch, but one needs life experience in order to see that. Hang in there, OP, I assure you it will get better![/quote]

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