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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

These responses are very eye opening for me - THANK YOU ALL.  I hear you loud and clear about needing time to re-charge and giving my DH and DS space.  Whoever posted the TED transcript - I found that to be helpful as well!

A couple more questions:

1) Is there anything else besides "me time" that can recharge you?  
2) When do you feel like you are most understood by your spouse or your parent?

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1) just generally having unstructured time. I won’t always say no to doing things without a prior plan, but when I’m most likely to agree is when I’m not feeling any kind of pressure. So things where I can dress casually, don’t involve big crowds or a group, and I won’t feel trapped into staying long. I do like shopping, walking our dogs, going out to eat with only us, to a casual place like pizza or burgers.

2) if someone invites us to something he knows I absolutely will hate (loud concerts unless they’re my favorite groups, a particular restaurant/bar his friends like but attracts an annoying younger crowd and allows smoking, parties where he knows I don’t really know many people and it’s not family, things like that), he just declines and doesn’t ask me to go. Now, I fully acknowledge that this is ME and my own problem, but I feel like sometimes when he asks I feel pressured to say yes because I get insecure about the fact that I’m just a homebody and introvert. I feel most understood if he tells me, “We got invited to Larlo’s sister’s boyfriend’s frat brother’s cookout where they’re having a live band,  but I’d rather just get some steaks and grill at home and build a fire  instead!” I’m like, YOU GET ME. [/quote]

Re: 2), are you okay if he goes to some of those things you'll hate?  I am like your guy, and my husband is like you.  I just can't stay home and watch TV most Fridays and Saturdays, I will go stir crazy.[/quote]

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