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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d say “no problem sign this post nup and I will quit today”.

Look- I get it. I could “insist” that my husband change his entire work life so that I could go back to work and not have my life suck (meaning still handle everything in the home plus work)but he would have to quit his very high paying job that he’s invested so much emotional and time labor in. That job has paid the day to day for our family of 5 for 12 years. I’m very pragmatic- me going back to work for 100k or even $150k would mean an overall loss of income for our family.

Just like if you’d made plans to be a SAHM and then you had kids and he told you to scurry back to work you’d be upset- he probably DID make career plans based upon you SAH. He sounds like a jerk overall (and a child)- but nobody likes feeling trapped or like the big bait and switch is going on.[/quote]

Sure, but in mature couples, people talk about these decisions like adults, rather than the way that OP and her husband are talking about them. Seriously. "If you want to go back to work, we can divorce and you can give me sole custody" as a response to "Can you drop the kid off at daycare so that I can go work at this job that I am excited about?"

She's not talking about him staying home with the kids. She's talking about him literally taking a child to daycare on his way to work.[/quote]

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