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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've always been an introvert, during college I tried to socialize more and had a roommate who pushed me to go out more. I wanted to me accepted and make friends.  I had fun, but now  I'm perfectly content just hanging out with my DH. You need to understand that for an introvert socializing with people we aren't 100% comfortable with is a lot of work and just exhausting. Now that I'm older and more comfortable in my own skin I don't see the point in trying to be someone I'm not. Luckily my DH is the same way and happy when it's just the two of us. [/quote]

+1 So I'm the introvert in the couple, and one thing that this PP here points out is "people we aren't 100% comfortable with."

So a great strategy that has worked for me is DH and I identified a couple that we really like (and kids like the kids, too).  That couple we pushed through the "uncomfortable" part with until we know them so well, we and they are always dropping in (text or phone call first, I mean, we are over at each other's houses a lot with little notice).

It's a little like extended family.  For example, my kids got off the bus on Friday and unbeknownst to them, during the day, the mom and I had set up a "playdate" and her kids were already at my house.  Since my older one had planned on running, she went off running for part of the "playdate" even though her friends were here--because it was an impromptu thing so we don't treat it as much like formal guests.  Then the dads appeared later on.  Very casual.

(playdate is in quotes because they are now teens and that word is forbidden, LOL)

So work with your DH and identify someone/family he could agree to do work on--it's work--to get over that initial hump, so that it becomes easy.  But for an introvert, it's short term work, so set it up like a project (so, when he's not too busy)[/quote]

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